Soulful Holiday Survival Guide for Sensitives & Empaths: Creating Energetic Boundaries and Returning others Pain

Sister Queen Lela The holidays used to be so overwhelming for me. I felt like I had to manage everyone else’s stress, take on their pain, and and make sure everyone in the room was allright. Family gatherings? Whew! By the end of the night, I wasn’t just tired; I was drained. Then, I learned the power of creating boundaries and practicing energetic hygiene, and it changed everything.

Now, I navigate the holidays with grace, compassion, and. . . most importantly. . . peace. Let me share some tools that can help you ground yourself, stop taking on others’ energy, and lovingly return what doesn’t belong to you .

Step 1: Ground Yourself Before Entering the Holiday Buzz

Before you head into a family gathering, party, or even a shopping trip:

  1. Breathe into Your Body: Close your eyes and take three deep breaths. Inhale through your nose, exhale through your mouth. Feel your feet on the ground. Imagine roots growing deep into the Earth, grounding you.
  2. Set Your Intentions: Say to yourself, "I am safe and in my body. I am grounded and present. I am the light . . . the light I am"
  3. Visualize a Golden Egg: Picture yourself inside a Golden Egg gently radiating light. This is your energetic boundary. It keeps your energy yours and gently filters what comes your way.

Step 2: Recognize When You’ve Taken on Others’ Energy

It happens—sometimes we take on other people’s stress, anger, or sadness before we realize it. Here’s how to tell:

  • You suddenly feel emotions that don’t feel like your own.
  • You’re physically tired or tense, especially in your head, chest, or stomach.
  • Your mood shifts after being around certain people.

Step 3: Return to Sender with Love

Here’s a simple yet powerful exercise to release what isn’t yours:

Returning Suffering to Its Rightful Owner~Does this belong to me?

  1. Get Comfortable: Sit with your hands palms-up, resting in your lap. Take a deep breath and relax your shoulders.
  2. Tune In: Feel or imagine where you’re holding someone else’s energy in your body or field. Maybe it’s heaviness in your chest or a buzzing tension in your head.
  3. Shape It: Using your intention, gather that energy into one "object" or lump. Picture it clearly, like holding a small ball or bundle.
  4. Place It in Your Hands: Imagine transferring that energy to your open palms. You’re not rejecting it, just lovingly acknowledging that it’s not yours.
  5. See the Owner: Envision the person to whom this energy belongs standing in front of you. At their highest self, they’re ready to receive it.
  6. Return It with Love: Stretch your hands toward them and mentally or physically "hand it back." Say to yourself or aloud, "With love and compassion, I return this to you."
  7. Release Residue: Shake off your hands, wash them with cool water, or rub them together. Feel yourself clear and light again.
  8. Check In: Take a moment to notice how you feel. Do you feel lighter? More yourself?

Extra Tips for Compassionate Boundaries During the Holidays

  • Pause Before Reacting: If someone’s emotions start to spill over, remind yourself, “This is theirs, not mine.”
  • Create Alone Time: Step outside for a breath of fresh air, find a quiet room, or even sit in your car for a few moments to recharge.
  • Celebrate Your Sensitivity: Being an empath is a gift. You’re compassionate, intuitive, and deeply connected. Just remember, you can’t pour from an empty cup.

This season, let’s honor our sensitivity while staying grounded and energized. Your energy is sacred, Sister Queen Lela! When you take care of yourself first, you can still give love to others—without losing yourself in the process.

Wishing you Peace, Joy, and so much Love this holiday season!
✨ Peace and Blessings, Lela